Well over the last week some growing up is needed. Fully aware that I am now 30 and that growing up should have happened already and others could probably argue I was old for my age anyway.
Last week I went to see the hospital counsellor regarding madam. And came to the realisation as much as things are hard to cope with we are coping alot more then when we first went to see her. I am not sure if this is due to the parenting course I had to go on or just myself I general.
We had a good chat which is shocking as I am not her biggest fan to be quite honest as before now I was made to feel it was all on me or that it was made behaviour. Yes sh can be difficult but I can see why and I was completely honest with her that I do have some learning issues myself. I need specific info. As I felt so confused conflicted by what everyone is saying and like magic people understood.
We saw the physio yesterday who didn't dismiss madams pain.... She had done before and we managed to have a really good chat. We agreed madam is madam she will get pain she can't over do it we have to let her rest too. Yes sports good we need to keep her strong because if she stops she will deteriorate quickly. Okay I understand that they were not saying it was a cure though that was the impression I was getting especially from the gp too. Madams hips are severely hypermobile esp her right hip which has a knock on affect. Her calf muscles are extemely tight because everything is trying to compensate for her loose knees hips etc just to keep her upright. It's any wonder why she has pain and tired Her body is full out just to keep her mobile.
The hard thing is knowing this is it where we are there is nothing more we can do. Use ice and heat tubi grips and medicine. Just to keep her going. When she has her next big growth spurt /puberty she is going to be hit hard and probably going to cause issues and with her already tall she won't be longer before she starts (physio said this) I dread it my baby is 8...
Being an adult is hard sometimes. ..but if I am not strong who will be? How can I tell her it will be all ok if I'm upset.
